Each day I go on my computer searching for potential jobs, looking for job fairs, checking my push e-mails, doing a little social networking, making some calls, and perusing the many articles with advice on how I can get a job. This is the third time in my working life that I have been out of work. It is the longest and toughest in some sense because of the current status of industry I worked in and my age. In these tough times, many have similar experiences.
What I find now is that I have more time for reading, and those of you similarly situated probably do also. I recommend that you consider reading the following three books:
“The Power of Kindness: The Unexpected Benefits of Leading a Compassionate Life” by Piero Ferrucci is a gentle reminder of how kindness comes and can be given in many forms. Separate chapters are devoted to honesty, warmth, forgiveness, contact, sense of belonging, trust, mindfulness, empathy, humility, patience, generosity, respect, flexibility, memory, loyalty, gratitude, service, and joy. An example he gives is a photographer who goes to an orphanage to take pictures of the children because a fine photograph makes adoption more likely. The author, a follower of Roberto Assagioli, who developed psychosynthesis, believes "K]indness and the goodwill of many is a resource, an energy on par with oil, water, wind, nuclear, and solar energy. It would be immensely useful (this is already happening) to pay more attention to it, find ways of evoking it, and harnessing it, organize training courses for it, teach it in schools, publicize it, use it in ads, turn it into a fashion." I concur.
“Emotional Resilience: Simple Truths for Dealing with the Unfinished Business of Your Past” by David Viscott provides remarkable insight into what makes us and others tick and react the way that we do. I believe, for most, reading this book will help more than going to a therapist. Two concepts, "Emotional Debt" and "Toxic Nostalgia" will provide remarkable clarity and understanding for many for the first time.
Here are two excerpts from the book: "The pleasure of life often falls to the unresolved pain of the past. This is especially true when old characterological attitudes intrude, diminishing joy, spoiling the good, and finding injury where none is intended." –and—
"Being happy comes from accepting the past and taking responsibility for your part. That acceptance allows you to view yourself as a work in progress, so your imperfections do not argue against your worth.”
“Working with Emotional Intelligence” by Daniel Goleman illustrates in extraordinary detail the importance of emotional intelligence and makes a compelling case for its preeminent role in the modern and changing workplace.